"No wonder everyone wants it-as if they have known such love before and can barely remember it, yet are compelled ever after to seek it as the single thing worth living for. Without love, most of life remains concealed. Nothnig is as fascinating as love, unfortunately.
I know love is dark work; you have to get your hands dirty. If you hold back, nothing interesting happens. At the same time, you have to find the right distance between people. Too close, and they overwhelm you; too far and they abandon you. How to hold them in the right relation?
It is beguiling how, in good relationships, even after years, formerly undiscovered parts of people are suddenly exposed, as in an archaelogical dig. There is much to explore, and understand. With other people you can only turn away, bored.
I want to say: this is just the way things are."
Intimacy, by Hanif Kureishi.